A 9 year old that I pick up from school on a regular basis had me laughing and thinking...."This would be great for Part 2!" So here it is my fellow dating comrades.
"Tami, ooh that's a cool car!" as he looks right to a black and yellow Ford Mustang.
"That reminds me Tami, a girl in the 4th grade had a ring on today and it looked like it might have been from a bubble gum machine and she told me a 4th grade boy gave it to her. They're boyfriend and girlfriend."
As I laugh, I ask him, "In the 4th grade? Wow!"
"Well, I was asked to be married by a girl 3 times in the 1st grade!" said the 9 year old. (anonymity)
I said, "Really? She must have really liked you. Was she a friend?"
"No, I didn't even know her and that was in the 1st grade! Besides, I'm the one that should ask not a girl!"
At the age of nine, this sweet kid knew more about the dating and marriage debacle than your average adult. So innocently thought of with no preconceived notions or no past hurtful memories. This made me ponder as to why this is a difficult situation for many adults. We go into dating with memories, hurts, feelings that aren't always good ones and inadequacies. We want to protect ourselves from hurting, only human nature. It's too bad we can't go back to our elementary days when we weren't quite old enough to have those negative associations. Reality is that if you have had a divorce, a long term or a short relationship, you have something that has made you a little hesitant about dating again.
I urge people that are starting the whole dating thing all over again, to evaluate your negative thoughts, how they got there, why they are there, what part of these beliefs are your responsibility and gain wisdom and wholeness from them. Then, and only then, do you have your childhood thoughts of this beautiful ritual, but it is also blessed with wisdom. Now, who wouldn't want to date that person? Be the person you're looking for, is looking for!
You might go on a few dates that aren't so spectacular, a few "Shoeless Joe's", but give it time, that right person will show up, and it will be all goosebumps, giddy laughter, smiles and happy dances!
Happy dating!
"Tami, ooh that's a cool car!" as he looks right to a black and yellow Ford Mustang.
"That reminds me Tami, a girl in the 4th grade had a ring on today and it looked like it might have been from a bubble gum machine and she told me a 4th grade boy gave it to her. They're boyfriend and girlfriend."
As I laugh, I ask him, "In the 4th grade? Wow!"
"Well, I was asked to be married by a girl 3 times in the 1st grade!" said the 9 year old. (anonymity)
I said, "Really? She must have really liked you. Was she a friend?"
"No, I didn't even know her and that was in the 1st grade! Besides, I'm the one that should ask not a girl!"
At the age of nine, this sweet kid knew more about the dating and marriage debacle than your average adult. So innocently thought of with no preconceived notions or no past hurtful memories. This made me ponder as to why this is a difficult situation for many adults. We go into dating with memories, hurts, feelings that aren't always good ones and inadequacies. We want to protect ourselves from hurting, only human nature. It's too bad we can't go back to our elementary days when we weren't quite old enough to have those negative associations. Reality is that if you have had a divorce, a long term or a short relationship, you have something that has made you a little hesitant about dating again.
I urge people that are starting the whole dating thing all over again, to evaluate your negative thoughts, how they got there, why they are there, what part of these beliefs are your responsibility and gain wisdom and wholeness from them. Then, and only then, do you have your childhood thoughts of this beautiful ritual, but it is also blessed with wisdom. Now, who wouldn't want to date that person? Be the person you're looking for, is looking for!
You might go on a few dates that aren't so spectacular, a few "Shoeless Joe's", but give it time, that right person will show up, and it will be all goosebumps, giddy laughter, smiles and happy dances!
Happy dating!
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| Happy dance! |
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